Galery

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Is it love and the merger of two soul mates on the left? Is it people who have very little in common, making it impossible for them to have a relationship on the right? I will disappoint you. On the left side we see our romantic projections and on the right only our fears.

What prevents us from loving fully and completely experiencing love? Ancient Greeks believed that the chariot of god of war Aris was pulled by two horses, Demos and Phobos, terror and fear. Have you heard this thought that everything is permitted in love and war? How is it possible for trust, sincerity, joy and love to exist where there is manipulation, strategy, fighting for dominance? The thousand-year-long war between the sexes, about which few speak openly, has not abated to this day. Fear causes us to stick to the relationship and lose our identity in it or, having taken off the rose-coloured glasses of our personal projections on the partner, to go to the next, and the next, and the next relationship in search of someone who actually does not exist. And these are just two of the many scenarios.

That is why we started to make the "love potion" with Philia and its ingredients. Look again at the diagram above. The couple on the right side is made up of two people who are balanced and aware of themselves, and they are on the path of self-discovery. The complete love that has all four components can originate and exist only between two people who are on the path of love for the self and of accepting what they really are.

If you are now telling yourself that you are such a person, but your partner is not, then see the part with unconditional love. The only way to influence the loved one is not by wanting him or her to change but by unconditionally accepting him or her, giving the necessary confidence, and supporting him or her. Our unconditional love can help, but may not be sufficient. We cannot change another person from the outside, change always comes from within.

To summarize, the fear of seeing ourselves with all our good and bad sides prevents us from true love. The beginning lies in the phrase "Know thyself" that ancient Greek philosophers have bequeathed us. Next, each of us attracts people such as himself or herself. And last but not least, love is a complex emotion that requires individual efforts from each of the two lovers. The quickest way to lose your partner and to destroy a relationship is by projecting your expectations on the other. The best way to nurture love is the unconditional way. We cannot change our partner, but we can support him or her.