Especially for the mother and father it is quite contradictory to which homes they should be allocated - whether the mother is at the 4th and the father is at the 10th or vice versa. It is said that to the 10th house should be allocated the parent who dominates. Traditionally this is the father.
People often say - what if the father is missing, as it often happens in recent times, then what? Who is the dominant parent if not the mother since she is the one that takes care of the child? And even if the father is not missing, definitely the mother is the one who takes more care of the children.
Well consider the following – whether the one who is absent, does not have a far greater influence on the children's minds, than the person who for years constantly takes care? People notice what they are missing! And it has an enormous impact on them - despite all contrary allegations. Elementary logic. No one craves and seeks what is already there.
Eleventh House
In western astrology, this home is associated mainly with the friends, the social circles to which one subscribes. It defines large groups of people and friendships that are based on common goals, ideology and so on.
I think that this particular home remains somehow very undervalued and is given a rather vague meaning.
In the tradition that is the home of hopes and desires. And more precisely the fulfilled ones. I have no idea why this is being omitted.
This home has as essential meaning the things that we wish to gain, our hopes, our greatest temptations. If the third house is the birth of desire, the first thought about it, the 11th home shows what we are able to gain. We win when we succeed, so the 11th home runs the success (its physical expression) as a whole. This is one of the homes which is mostly concerned to the material benefits - showing everything one wins, the flow all revenue - both the tangible and intangible. Not how they come but what and how much of it. If the second home defines the preserved, then the 11th home defines the entire stream.
Therefore, a confusion often occurs because one can earn in many various ways and actually to earn a lot, but to keep a little. And the confusion comes from the fact that a weak second home, usually leads to the conclusion for low financial status, but it could be just the opposite - higher financial status due to a strong 11th house, however things related to keeping do not go smoothly. As would happen in a big business – there is a large cash flow, which is continuously reinvested and a man does not keep a lot of savings.
Traditionally, in a family the eldest child is in the position of the first challenger for the inheritance and all younger children do respect him and benefit from his assistance, protection and support. Therefore, the 11th home runs the support and protection that a person receives not only from its larger siblings, but also from friends and various social groups.
This home, though it is a home of the benefits and success, has its bad side - too many desires, temptations that lead to manifestation of the arrogance and self centering. This is a place of abundance, but also of the surplus.
The interesting thing about this home is that all planets in it are usually good doers. The symbol of the 11th sign of the zodiac is a pot - the subject, which collects what has been achieved.
But from the pot, its contents is poured freely. So all the planets here symbolize some wealth, but also waste. Because abundance always involves some surplus, which should be discarded. otherwise the flow would dry up due to lack of space for running.
Twelfth House
And the last home in the horoscope. Which is the third of the unpleasant, the miserable. The other two are the sixth and eighth.
The main meaning of 12th home is a liberation, an escape from the land, from the matter. From a religious point of view I explained that childbirth is seen as a tragic event because the human spirit from a state of oneness with the whole, "falls" in duality of matter and loses its integrity. In this regard, the 12th home symbolizes the liberation of the spirit and its return to its original state of unity. Which is not so unfortunate event. For example, to a monk.
Logically, this process of "liberation" is connected with a loss in the matter. Therefore, this house defines everything that a man loses and the ways he escapes from earthly realities and difficulties - through sex, drugs, alcohol, a living in luxury and extravagance. It also manages the hospitals, prisons, monasteries, ie all the places in which one is isolated from the socium and the material possessions are lost. Sometimes losses are voluntary, sometimes not. Defined in such manner this home – of the loss - sounds too tragic and desperate. However is it tragic to lose one’s illness? Or to lose consciousness during sleep? Or to lose the barriers standing on the way of good material state?
12th home runs charity - voluntary loss of material goods. This home runs also the foreign countries - far from the birthplace, and emigration as a means of escape and liberation.
Fixed investments are also managed by the 12th home, because these are spending of large amounts and are virtually lost in some given period. But a long-term investment is a spending, which over time can give financial freedom.
Following - how to account for the secondary uses of the homes and the additional factors taken into account when interpreting.