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We humans possess a perfect and flawless organic "give and take " mechanism. At the moment when we "accept" the other we automatically switch on to "give" to him. About the receiveing in our intimacy and privacy and the ways in which we do it, are primarily responsible the planets Moon and Venus, and also the second home in the horoscope.
    In this article I will tell you about the other part of this mechanism - that of giving ourselves to the other after we have already accepted him. I do not intend to go into details about what comes first - whether it is acceptance or rendering. Many people would say that you must first give in order to receive. Basically this is true. However nobody could give you a piece of bread, if he himself does not have any bread.
    So even if we think that we start with "giving" we actually first think about what we could get. And only then we are willing to give. Because of the expectation and hope to get something specific. This is the trap in which many people fall. Because it often turns out, especially when talking about relationships, that what we hope to get and for that reason we have given a lot from ourselves, we finally do not manage to get.
    The astrological factors which determine how we "give" to the other are the planets Mars and Sun as well as the eighth home in the horoscope. There are six basic archetypes of how we give to the other. Six key "characters" have been defined, which we use in our intimate relationships when talking about giving and support. But no one fits only in one specific archetype. There are several layers that are mixed. This produces specific individual models.
    The first type - centered on himself. These are the Sun and Mars in the signs Aries and Libra. And also the aspect of Venus to the two planets.
    In other words, the man who will always first think about himself and only then about the other person. It does not sound particularly attractive because beneath this lies selfishness. I will never get tired of repeating that there is nothing wrong with the selfishness of people. In certain doses, it is even useful.
    This type of people are always afraid that there might not be enough for themselves. And if you do not have enough how could you give to the other?! Even if they let you close to them, to accept you they will consider how much they can give you so that enough would remain for themselves. The initial steps in the relationship for this type of people can be very consumerist following the principle - "First let me gain some stock and then I will start giving". They need to feel secure. And this is a process that can last very long. They start giving to the other only in moments when they feel sure that they really have and can afford to give. They will give your car only when they have another one. They will give you love, only when they have received twice as much. They always keep some in stock. They will not afford to jeopardize their integrity. The more uncertain they are in their "stockpile", the more restrictions they have in the process of giving. In love they will pursue this balance to be in their favor. To have a "stockpile".

    The second type - the man who would give everything. Astrologically it refers to the Sun and Mars in the signs Taurus and Scorpio. It also refers to the aspects of Pluto to the two planets.

    These are people who carry in themselves the readiness to give everything they have to the other person. It is enough to have accepted him close to themselves. They are the ones who will take off their coat and shiver if they see you are cold. They are the people who will give to the moment they do not have anything left. Once they have started they do not stop.
Of course, this privilege is not for everyone. Such an impulse to give to the other with handfuls occurs extremely rarely. Sometimes it is possible that this mechanism may never be activated. Or to come across the wrong man after whom to close the "tap" forever. This type of people can be extremely generous to someone who seems not to be in great need and absolutely impassive to someone who is literally on the edge. In love this type of people are able to give to the last drop, until they are completely exhausted.